Tuesday, February 21, 2012

The power of prayer...

Yah, we’ve all heard it.  But have you ever sat down and really contemplated the actual ‘power’ behind it all?

I have.

As we’ve been knocked from a stand to our knees; then from our knees to our face…then the rope tightens around our ankles and the truck starts and we’re suddenly dangling from it as it speeds down a dirt road; rocks hitting our face and I look like an aluminum can hanging from a car that reads “Just Married” I do believe that gave me time for careful contemplation.

How’s that for description?  {giggle}

But, I can honestly say I’m grateful; for the trial, for the experience, for the prayers received and offered up.  They work and continue to humble me.

This is how it went down:

In November I received a phone call, I got the job; part-time cashier to fill in the gap where the bills were slowly creeping over us like a lush kudzu vine.  We were saved.  We had simplified but the money coming in just wasn’t enough.  Now, we would have it; maybe not a “Christmas” but the every day would be taken care of.

Two hours later I received an email; child support would not be coming for possibly 90 days.

I cried.

In December we still weren’t receiving child support but my part-time job offered me varying full {ish} time hours.  Somehow, the gaps were still being filled.

In January, still no child support.  There were over-payments of child support in the Fall that were immediately paid back.  I know this; I paid them back myself.  I still wasn’t able to get through to anyone in child support enforcement and the recording would only tell me to write a letter.
Which I did; and again.

In January no child support.  Po gets a call; all personnel to the store at 9pm.  Yah.  We knew what was coming.  See, my Po has been a Market Manager for Food Lion for over 15 years.  For all those who aren’t familiar that’s a grocery chain out here that just closed about 134 stores.  His store was one of them.   In Maryland he was the top paid Market Manager because he’s just that good.
{I’m his wife, but it’s nice to know at least they appreciated him there.}

So the even better news was that they weren’t placing any of them.  He was going to be without a job.

I cried.  But not when he would see me.  I had to be strong, for him.

We prayed, and talked and prayed some more.  For the first time in our lives we really realized how much we did not have control of anything.  I mean being stripped financially was something we had become accustomed to.  But the thought of losing our house and not being able to keep my pidglets safe was a whole new ball game.  Thankfully the pidglets would still have insurance but Po and I are up a creek.  {Thank you Sheila Bee for sending out ®Reliv to keep us healthy until benefits would arrive}

Nothing on this green earth was in our control.  Had a certain someone let child support enforcement know I had made those payments back {immediately} none of this would ever have happened.  Someone had control, it just wasn’t me.

We took a deep breath and decided if we couldn’t pull through this as a family and with love and not frustration and stress then we didn’t deserve the blessings that Heavenly Father had in store for us.
{true story. wink}

So, we laughed, we made fun of our poor selves and loved and spent time together.  We played board games and dug in finding the little time we had together {all of us} and allowed Him to show us what He had in store.

We prayed for whatever He chose.  We prayed for His will to be done.  We prayed for faith to allow us to remain together.

After the store announced it’s closing a Store Manager from BI-LO, another grocery chain, came into Po’s store and scout him out.
{To good to be true.  That doesn’t really happen.}
Next week the District Manager from BI-LO came in and offered for Po to come work for him.  Pshh….yah we’ll believe it when we see it.
Then for a few weeks, we heard nothing.

Po continued to work out his store until it closed.  It was sad really.  Shelves were empty displaying nothing but rusty squares on the floor where they had rest for so many years.  Signs were removed leaving a smoky impression on the walls.  Departments were barren and the lights were dim where  people once had jobs.  It was eerie to say the least.  It was over.  It was closure.

One week later I was told that a department manager position was open at my store.  It made no sense to me.  When I had originally applied for the cashier position I had purposely left off all of my experience; managerial and otherwise because I just wanted front end.  No one knew me.   I hadn’t even made it through my 90 days yet.

Needless to say, I applied.

District Manager called Po on the Thursday his store closed, “Hey, when are you going to come work for me?”

Needless to say Po took the job.  A lil bit more money, Market Manager, and a lil bit closer to home.  He went not one day without a job.

A week later I got an interview.  By mid-day one of our Assistant Managers was congratulating me as I spit on my customer with thanks and glowing perspiration I’m sure.
{I’m smooth like that}

None of this made sense.  None of this was in our control.  It was all Him, our Father in Heaven who knows us each individually.  How in all of the mayhem could we have possibly seen this coming?  I look back and shudder to think what if we had failed each other?  What if we had gotten sour and bitter and frustrated and resentful?  What if we had fallen apart?

I’m so grateful we didn’t.  I’m so grateful we chose to go down on the sinking ship together if that’s what it took.  I knew we wouldn’t but it was nice that if it were to come to that we were all sticking together.

To date:

Po finished training and started at his new store today.
I start my new position Saturday.

We both have 40 hours and benefits in 90 days. 
{And we both have hair nets…the perks just keep coming.  wink}
My paperwork was received; child support will be starting again soon.

"Let us remember, too, that greatness is not always a matter of the scale of one’s life, but of the quality of one’s life. True greatness is not always tied to the scope of our tasks, but to the quality of how we carry out our tasks whatever they are. In that attitude, let us give our time, ourselves, and our talents to the things that really matter now, things which will still matter a thousand years from now."
-Spencer W. Kimball

Things that matter…is how we got through it, what we learn from it and what we teach our children.

Enduring to the End

Finally, I did something the right way.  There may be hope for me after all.

Psalms 37:3-5

Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.  Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.  Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and he shall bring it to pass.

I am so grateful and overflowing with thanks for the blessings my family has received.  I am so thankful in all of the world’s ugliness that I chose not to share that the light stills streams of the love my Father has for me and my family.  I’m blessed to be focused on the good and have good friends {that’s you} that I might share these things with.

And to top it off with a wondermous blessing, my daddy is doing just fine.  And just as handsome as ever...whew... {smirk}




  1. Oh wow, wow, wow. Praise the Lord! :D I'm so so happy for you!

  2. Wow, I had no idea all this was happening. :( I am so happy to hear how everything worked out. It's so hard to go through stuff like this not knowing what's happening and not being in control. God is faithful, he knows what we need and knows the right timing, can't he just give us hints sometimes so we don't lose our minds?! lol. Congratulations to the both of you!! :)

  3. so thankful for your blessings and the timing of them! you are so right...our reaction to hardship is everything! where we really see what we are made of. i am rejoicing with you over your rightness of heart. when you exercise your faith, you encourage others to do likewise.


  4. That is so awesome! Congrats to both on new jobs. I'll have to remember not to get bitter. I think you're right, your attitude changed the direction for you guys. The power of prayer and positivity is awesome. It's just sometimes hard to remember!

  5. Our Heavenly Father is awesome! Prayers were surrounding you, girl, from every end of the earth (well, mine!). Love you tons and will continue praying for you and yours. You are always in my thoughts:)

  6. This is such great news. Your trust in Him let you hang on and thank God you did because look how wonderful it all is now. Gratitude and joy is well deserved. Prayer is certainly amazing!

  7. Woooooowah! Saying this with eyes stretched and heart racing! Conseroiusgratulations!!!!!!!! I'msofreakin thrilled!

  8. Wow, I just got chills reading this.
    I know how you feel... with less than $100 a week I DO get from c/s... it's still tough.
    Tough as nails.
    Why did they shut down the Food Lion? Didn't want to convert to Bloom/Bottom Dollar?

    I am SO glad Po did get a job, blessing in disguise. :)
    and you lady... you know you rock. Psh, who else would they give that job too? ;) XOXO


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